Some/all relevant reasons for faders. Personally, I would gladly discuss everything I've found with anyone & everyone I know in the org, but I control my overwhelming need to do so for my wife's sake. She's "out" too, but gently "feeds" her family whom she doesn't want to lose.
Your family could gently fade in your present congregation, and just accept being branded as "spiritually weak." Doing so would make some/all of your "friends" in the congregation distance themselves from you, for fear of being contaminated with your "weakness." Also, and much easier to deal with psychologically, the elders' attempts to "help" you. Simply say "private & personal issues to deal with, but thanks for your concern. We'll let you know if things change."
Moving home (if feasible) is a great way to start again - even if only to change congregations and immediately go "cold-turkey" for field-service & assemblies, and only attending meetings every few weeks or months.
Whatever works for you and your family.